Samar Poorlakani, MA, Licensed Professional Counselor
My name is Samar Poorlakani. My pronouns are she/her and I am a sex-positive psychotherapist.
My goal is to create a safe and non-judgmental space where you can feel free to explore yourself and be radically authentic. I work in a private practice in South Austin with a focus on sex therapy, and more specifically BDSM/kink and the vast world of non-monogamy.
What does it mean to be sex-positive? There are many definitions. To me, it is embracing sexuality with an emphasis on consent and safe sex. Sex is still very much considered a "taboo" topic, but I like to approach it with a positive attitude and provide psychoeducation, as needed. I believe sex, your sexual identity, and sexual behaviors can be discussed without shame and awkwardness. I hope I can help create a safe space where you can explore and understand your sexuality and what that means for you and your relationships.
According to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, I am a kink knowledgeable professional. No matter the terminology (whether you prefer kink knowledgeable, aware, or friendly), I am a therapist who is open-minded, non-judgmental, and supportive of the kink and BDSM lifestyle. Whether you are starting to explore kinky fantasies or have been living the lifestyle for a while, I hope to empower you and give you the support you are looking for.
I also specialize in non-monogamous relationships (including but not limited to: polyamory, open marriages/relationships, swinging, triads, quads, poly families, relationship anarchy, solo polyamory, and more — essentially, anything that falls under the umbrella of "ethical non-monogamy"). I am here to guide you through the issues that may arise if you are considering opening your relationship/marriage or if you already practice an ethical non-monogamous lifestyle. Some of those issues may include: navigating boundaries, safe sex practices, communication skills, the potential for jealousy, understanding compersion, and feelings of insecurity, neglect, or inadequacy.
Do I look familiar? I believe my clients deserve a knowledgeable, well-versed, and empathetic therapist in both the kink and poly lifestyle, so I do my best to stay professionally involved in the community here in Austin.
Please be aware that I am not a sex surrogate. There is no physical or sexual contact with clients. I am a mental health therapist who focuses on sexuality and addressing any concerns that come with it.
I work with individuals, couples, and families of all configurations. There are a variety of reasons people find themselves needing therapy. Counseling is a way for you to uncover new information about yourself, your relationships, and where you can deepen your emotional and cognitive awareness. Maybe you find yourself in crisis and need a therapist to talk to where you can speak openly and privately. You may also come to therapy for maintenance, where you can strengthen your relationships or improve yourself.
I have completed Level II of John Gottman's training and use his method in my work with couples. I'm also trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) which is helpful in treating trauma, anxiety, and a number of different issues. I have experience working with clients seeking help with sexual health issues and relationship conflict. You can seek counseling for concerns of infidelity, intimacy issues, communication concerns, emotional affairs, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, low testosterone, vaginismus, increased and decreased desire, orgasmic difficulties, genital and sexual pain, sex and porn addiction, sexual arousal difficulties, sexual anxiety, sexual abuse or other trauma, fertility complications, and many more concerns.